Get Out Of The Rut - Tip #1

As I write this today my neighbour has 2 police vehicles and an ambulance outside their home, and memories come crashing back to me of before... times when that big elephant weight of grief, of loss, of panic and confusion step on your chest - taking away the ability to breathe. 

My heart goes out to my neighbours and I hope they get the help they need.

I don't know yet what is happening over there but for this to happen now, as I write on the topic of overcoming the depth of depression and climbing out of emotional ruts, well... perhaps this means that I need this series right now too. 

This is the first of maybe five posts offering simple tips to bring light into the darkest times, the deepest depression, the weight of grief, and quieten the inner critic, judge and victim voices. 

So here we go... Tip #1

There is one single thing that we have to become aware of, to acknowledge, when we are in this state of mind... which is - that we need to break the routine. 

We have been feeling this way so long, and habitually responding to our pain that we get into this routine, this rut that we just can't pull out of.

We put our blinders on. We pretend everything is all right, we tell people we are fine, we ignore our bodies responding to the stress that we are swallowing. We fear change. We feel upsetting the "boat" at home or at work or within our culture, our circles. 

And it is definitely uncomfortable to get out of that. It is so much easier to curl up with our blanket and our pyjamas and build this little cocoon for ourselves. 

If we are honest with ourselves, we don't want to move forward out of that nice little cocoon that we've built for ourselves even though we are able to acknowledge that it is a depressive, oppressive cocoon that we've built for ourselves.

Do Something Different

The only way that we can do that is to get out of our routine. Even the smallest change can have huge results which can be very exciting, offering promise of something better. However it is so easy to slip back into that comfortable cocoon. 

Start Small

Make the commitment to do one single thing different, write it down, tell people you are working on this one goal, give this to yourself. Commit to it. 

Get up early... 

Set the alarm for just 10 minutes earlier than usual. Use that time to rest and enjoy the steaming mug of coffee. Don't try and multi-task, take on chores, "do" something. Just be... breathe, enjoy that 10 minutes. Need a distraction? Look out the window at the sunrise, or watch the neighbourhood activities, pay attention to the leaves, the branches or the way the light plays on your wall. 

Do this for a full week, without missing one single opportunity to practice this new habit. We'll expand on this later, but for now we are starting small and celebrating the fact that we are on the road to more positive habits. 

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